When it comes to love, it's easy to get caught up in the needs and decisions of the object of your affection.

What can start out as a healthy attraction can become a dangerous dependency if you begin to look outside yourself for happiness.

Sometimes you crave romance so much that you're willing to give away control over your very own life without even realizing it.

If you feel like you've given up your power to another person, it's time to put it and your life back where it belongs in your own hands.

Here's how to take the power back!
Plug in to yourself!

The first step to taking control of your life when you're in a relationship where your partner makes most of the decisions is to step back and analyze the how that affects your life in a honest way.

Think about what makes you happy and what makes you unhappy. Consider your goals, hopes and dreams.

Is you partner supportive in your journey or are they undermining your ability to find success and happiness?

Once you have a clearer vision of your life and any power issues in your relationship, you can begin to assert yourself more. You'll become aware of the things you may be doing in the interest of love that are not in your best interest.

Unplug from other people as you recognize opportunities for change, you'll also begin to see that those decisions were always part of your life. You'd just let someone else make them.

In the beginning, it will be tough to unplug from the opinions of your partner and make the power over your life your own. You maybe afraid of failure or worse, alienating the person who once had the power.

But if you communicate your needs consistently, the person you love will understand that you're just trying to stand on your own to make meaningful changes in your life.

And what if that someone close to you doesn't want you to take back the power in your life? There's a good chance they don't really know how to love you, they just want to control you.

Recharge yourself.

Taking back the power in your life is an exciting, rewarding process. But it can also be exhausting and over whelming. It's important to give yourself extra TLC as you take on the challenge.

Get plenty of rest, exercise and eat healthy to keep yourmind and body balanced and strong.

Make time for therapy, meditation or religious activities to stay focusedon the transition.

Good days ahead..